By Ola, a Certified Dating Coach, Holistic Therapist, and NLP Practitioner
One of the most common and heartbreaking questions I hear from my clients is:
“Why won’t he commit?”
After months or even years of investing in a relationship, many women find themselves stuck—waiting for a man to make the next move. Whether it’s commitment, moving in together, engagement, or marriage, he keeps stalling.
And when you finally ask, “Where is this going?” you get the same standard responses:
- “I love you, but I’m not ready.”
- “I just need more time.”
- “I want to get my career, finances, or life together first.”
- “I don’t know what I want.”
If this sounds familiar, it’s time for a wake-up call.
The #1 Trait That Makes a Man Want to Marry You
Here’s the truth that will change how you approach relationships forever:
Men commit to women who love and honor themselves more than they love him.
A 15-year study found that men overwhelmingly choose to marry women who prioritize their own happiness, goals, and self-worth.
Think about it—when a woman makes a man the center of her world, he may enjoy the attention temporarily, but deep down, he starts losing respect for her.
Why? Because she is compromising herself for his approval.
Are You Making Yourself Less Attractive Without Realizing It?
A man won’t commit to a woman who:
- Makes excuses for his bad behavior, like ghosting, lack of effort, or inconsistency
- Puts his needs above her own
- Loses herself in the relationship
- Ignores her own goals and dreams to fit into his life
On the other hand, men are drawn to women who:
- Have a clear vision for their life
- Communicate their standards without fear
- Know when to walk away from the wrong man
- Value their time and energy
The Key to Getting What You Want in Love
The most attractive women are the ones who refuse to settle. They know their worth and won’t compromise their core values for any man.
For example:
- A woman who wants marriage and kids will not wait years for a man who is unsure if he wants a family.
- A woman who dreams of traveling will not waste time with a man who never wants to leave his hometown.
- A woman who values emotional connection will not accept a partner who avoids deep conversations.
When you commit to your vision, the right man will step up—or the wrong ones will step aside.
Ready to Attract Commitment-Ready Men?
If you have struggled with men who won’t commit, it’s time for a new approach.
In my private coaching program, I teach women how to:
- Spot emotionally unavailable men before getting attached
- Set boundaries without fear of losing him
- Cultivate deep self-worth and confidence in dating
- Attract high-value men who want to commit
You don’t have to keep waiting for a man to choose you. Choose yourself first, and the right man will follow.
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