By
Ola
Certified Dating Coach, Holistic Therapist, NLP Practitioner
One of the biggest myths in dating is that romantic attraction is all about physical chemistry or sexual readiness. As a certified women’s dating coach, I know that true attraction runs deeper than physical desire—it’s about emotional alignment. If you’ve struggled with connecting on dates, this blog is for you.
- The Myth of Physical Attraction: Sure, physical attraction matters, but it’s not the full story. Many women feel disappointed when they don’t experience instant chemistry, but research shows that lasting attraction often stems from shared emotional experiences rather than physical appearance alone.
The Rickety Bridge Study: There’s a fascinating study that highlights this. When couples had their first dates on a shaky, unstable bridge, they felt more attracted to each other than couples who met on a solid, stone bridge. Why? The emotional experience of fear created a bond between them, demonstrating that shared feelings are often more powerful than physical looks in building attraction.
- Emotional Alignment Is the Key:
- Real romantic attraction happens when two people are emotionally aligned. This is known as empathic resonance—when you and your date are feeling the same things, you connect on a deeper level. Whether it’s sharing laughter, vulnerability, or even excitement about the same topic, emotional alignment builds the foundation for lasting romantic attraction.
- Building Emotional Alignment:
- Instead of focusing on “chemistry” or physical attraction, ask yourself: How can I align emotionally with this person? Simple activities like listening to their stories, sharing your own experiences, and connecting through humour can create the bond you’re seeking.
Attraction isn’t just about looks or sexual desire—it’s about emotional connection. As a dating coach, I always advise my clients to focus on building emotional alignment on their dates. This is what leads to long-term connections, and it’s a much more fulfilling path than chasing physical attraction alone.
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